Becoming Without Apology Series - Part 5

Part 5: Growth Means You’ll Outgrow People

By: Cree Jones, LMFT

*We are doing a 5-part series about becoming a more unapologetic you. We would love your insights and some of your answers to our blog questions with this series! This is a great time to reflect on yourself as well as bring some of these questions/answers back to your therapist.*

One of the hardest truths about growth is this.

Not everyone can come with you.

When you heal, your boundaries change. When you grow, your values sharpen. When you stop abandoning yourself, relationships shift.

Some people will celebrate that.
Others will resist it.

Outgrowing people does not mean anyone failed.
It means you are no longer aligned.

You can love people and still choose distance. You can appreciate what was and still move forward. You can release without resentment.

Growth does not require bitterness.
It requires honesty.

The people meant to stay will meet you where you are now, not where you used to be.

And that clarity brings peace.

Reflection Questions – Part 5

• Who feels harder to relate to now that you’ve grown?
• What relationships feel misaligned rather than harmful?
• How do you usually cope with the guilt of choosing yourself?
• What has growth revealed about the people who feel safe to you now?
• What would it mean to release relationships with gratitude instead of resentment?

Take a moment to reflect on this question as you finish the series:

Who are you becoming when you stop abandoning yourself?